I am so sick of the drama between my mom and sister. Just got off the phone with my mom, feel guilty for upsetting her when none of this is my fault, and now just feel crappy. I'm pretty sure she went to go cut, she said she had to go pretty abruptly. I'm just tired of everyone talking to me about problems that are between them. then she wonders why I get pissed? I don't need the stress or drama from either one of them. I told her that and said she wonders why I haven't been calling. That's when she took it all personal and had to hang up. Said sometthing about it must just be all her and she can take care of that. I called my dad, but of course he didn't answer. We were going to go there after ballet, but now I just want to go home. Why me???

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HUGS Melissa that has to be rough.

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What's the deal between them?

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Honestly, I'm not completely sure. Most of the issues right now have to do with work - my sister works for my dad at the business he owns. Some people should just not work for family. LOL I hear bits of pieces from each of them because they both use me as their personal go-to gripe person. My dad tells stuff to my sister that he doesn't tell my mom because he doesn't think she can handle it, but my mom thinks and acts like she knows everything. It's really a tangled mess and I get caught in the middle. It's stupid.

I know that my sister has some unresolved anger issues and takes a lot of it out on my mom even when she hasn't done anything. That said, my mom has done plenty to be upset about, so it's not like she's completely innocent in the matter. KWIM? They're both guilty. But my sister has some issues that she won't/hasn't taken care of. Some have to do with her first marriage, some of have to do with dealing with Ex now as an Ex, with Jeremy's exes, and so on. So yes, she has a lot of stress, a lot of anger, but she hasn't figured out how to deal with it. And typically she chooses my mom to lash out at. Over the past few years, her tolerance for dealing with my mom has also dramatically decreased. My mom has huge cognitive issues from the MS and yes it can be aggravating to deal with. But I guess my sister is sick of overlooking it and now she treats my mom like she's stupid.

Some of it I'm sure is personality conflict. They are very much alike and clash. They always have. The teenage years with my sister were a living hell. I was the innocent bystander. Honestly, I wish both of them would just grow up and leave me out of it.

I did call my mom back, she didn't answer, but she's on FB so at least I know she's alive. I called and vented to dh and now I'm going about my day. Concentrating on having fun with my kids and not worrying about them.

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"Every morning in Africa, an antelope wakes up. It knows it must outrun the fastest lion, or it will be killed.
Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest antelope, or it will starve.
It doesn't matter whether you're the lion or an antelope - when the sun comes up, you'd better be running."
-African Proverb

Melissa,

It's got to be hard being the middle person. Sort of stuck in limbo listening to the mamba. I hope they resolve their issues without you and good for you setting up boundaries. I am proud of you!

Dawn

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Can't you just say leave me out of it? I know, probably easier said than done.

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& Wife to Phil (8/30/97)
The zoo.....dogs Jesse, Tootsie & Ruby and cats Charlie, Zeke & Sally
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Dawn, thanks. yes, it's hard to set boundaries, especially with someone like my mom who is so isolated anyways. I hate to cut her off.

Shayna, yes. I've tried before to tell them both, honestly it's probably my mom that complains to me more, it's none of my business. It's work stuff, it's between them. But I don't know if she forgets or just doesn't get it. Last week I told her flat out, I don't care, I don't want to hear about it, I don't care to hear about it. There's really one issue right now that both of them gripe from different POVs, both have the power to make a choice to change it, but neither do. I guess it's easier to just gripe and complain than to take action that might actually change the circumstances that you're griping about.

I do tend to just sit and listen to my mom because she doesn't have anyone else to talk to. So I've tried to be understanding, and usually I just listen and let it go, but I've had it.

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"Every morning in Africa, an antelope wakes up. It knows it must outrun the fastest lion, or it will be killed.
Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest antelope, or it will starve.
It doesn't matter whether you're the lion or an antelope - when the sun comes up, you'd better be running."
-African Proverb

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